I Am Responsible For My Life
Your future can be everything you have ever dreamed about and then some. You have the talent and the tools to experience one beautiful day after another. That is, in fact, what the Architect of the universe had in mind for you when you were created. If that were not so, you would have never been endowed with such awesome powers!
You are above all other forms of creation. Your greatest power is your ability to choose. In Leland Val VanDeWall‘s classic personal development program, You Were Born To Choose, he wrote, ‘ “When a person takes responsibility for their life and the results they are obtaining, they will cease to blame others as the cause of their results. Since you cannot change other people, blame is inappropriate.” ‘
Blaming others causes a person to remain bound in a prison of their own making. When you take responsibility, blame is eliminated and you are free to grow. Taking responsibility has the potential to impact your life to an incredible degree…more friends, more money, improved health. Properly utilized, it will definitely improve your self-image and literally compound your self-respect.
“I Am Responsible for MY Life, for MY Feelings and for Every Result I get!”
When you speak of responsibility, you’re talking about freedom. Freedom is something many people take for granted. Have you ever considered what it would be like to lose your freedom; to have it taken away from you, literally?
You are responsible for how you feel, the results you are getting and the direction in which you are moving in your life. Many people are prisoners to a false belief. Theirs is a mental prison. Their movement, possessions and accomplishments are restricted. They are not able to go where their heart would lead them. Their frustration is endless and the punishment, severe.
Since the cause of their confinement is ignorance, they might never be free. In many ways, a mental prison is a much worse place to live than a federal prison. Mental torment can destroy just about everything that is necessary for a meaningful life. A person living in a mental prison cannot earn anyone’s respect, not even their own. They have no self-respect. It will destroy confidence, self images become shattered and relationships fall apart. It will even cause physical health to deteriorate.
If you are confined in such a mental state, understand there is a way out. Escape is encouraged and possible. Freedom is calling YOU. Responsibility will open the door and permit you to walk into a bright new way of life.
You could be thinking: “This certainly does not apply to me.” Permit me to suggest that you do yourself a great favor. Invest a little time in serious introspection. Most people who are mentally confined are not aware of it. You might consider what the best-selling author Vernon Howard wrote: ‘ “You cannot escape from a prison if you do not know you are in one!” ‘
The real truth is this…Very few people have developed sufficient awareness to take complete and absolute responsibility for every aspect of their life!
The men and women you probably have the greatest respect for, are the ones who HAVE accepted responsibility for every aspect of their life. These people decide how much money they will earn. If they require more money to provide for the things they want, to live the way they choose, they earn it! They will not permit another person’s comments to upset them, emotionally. THEY decide how they will feel, regardless. They make certain their work has meaning; that it is stimulating.
They know that how they spend THEIR days is important. They absolutely refuse to be involved, day after day, in mundane activities. They travel to all parts of the world, expanding their minds by seeing how other cultures experience life. They have exciting, stimulating social lives, by associating with other like-minded individuals.
You rarely hear or see these people attempting to duck responsibility for an unfavorable result by blaming someone else. Whenever a negative circumstance appears on THEIR horizon, they take it squarely on the chin. They are always aware that they have attracted the negative circumstance. They also know that everything happens for a reason. They learn their lesson and keep reaching out above and beyond, to the new frontier, taking responsibility for what happens every step of the way.
“I Am Responsible for MY Life, for MY Feelings and for Every Result I get!”
When responsibility becomes a habit, every new horizon will be bright. God’s gift to you is more talent and ability than you will ever use in this lifetime. Your gift to God is to develop that talent and ability. That is your responsibility. Inherent within every human lies greatness.
In 1903, Wallace D Wattles wrote a wonderful book called, The Science of Being Great. In it, he said, ‘ “You become great by doing little things in a great way every day!” ‘ It is your responsibility to do a great job at whatever you are doing. Winston Churchill said, ‘ “Responsibility is the price of greatness!” ‘
Unfortunately, many people do not understand that every time we duck responsibility, what we are very likely dodging is success! We might easily dodge our responsibility, but we will never dodge the consequences of dodging our responsibility.
Begin right where you are! There is absolutely no way that you can turn back the clock to yesterday or yesteryear. All we ever have is the present and a bright future awaits us. Too often we get caught up in the “should’ve game.” “I should’ve done this or that.” Clearly understand, you cannot “should’ve done” anything!
Whatever you did or did not do in the past, stands. It cannot be changed anymore than you are able to change the time you got out of bed yesterday morning, or what you had for breakfast this morning. You did the only thing you could with the consciousness you had at the time.
If you did not behave in the past as responsible as you now think you should have, FORGIVE YOURSELF and get on with your life! Forgiving yourself and/or others is one of the great secrets of success. It is also an extremely effective healing concept. Do you now what the word forgive means? It means to LET GO OF, COMPLETELY; ABANDON.
Until we learn HOW to forgive, we will not have sufficient mental competence to live in a responsible manner.
When a person has not learned how to forgive, it necessarily follows that they are harboring two of the most destructive emotions known: Guilt and Resentment. With those two related demons wandering around our mind, there will be no room for responsibility. You cannot be blaming and be responsible at the same time. Blame and responsibility are not good bed partners. They are incompatible.
“I Am Responsible for MY Life, for MY Feelings and for Every Result I get!”
The very fact that you have the ability to choose your thoughts makes you unique; YOUR way, special. Thought is the preamble to everything. Every result in life had its origination in thought. What are the odds of two people choosing exactly the same thoughts for any given period of time? You are unique. Your thoughts are YOUR thoughts. Your life is definitely what your thoughts make of it.
When a person rejects responsibility, they reject their uniqueness and they turn all of their special powers over to other people, situations or circumstance. They are no longer in control of their future. They will be forever wondering what tomorrow, next week, or next year has in store for them. They will be hoping something good will happen, but because of past experiences, they will very likely be expecting something they do not want to happen. Many of these misguided souls run off to fortune tellers, psychics, etc., in an attempt to get a reading on their own future.
When you accept responsibility for your life and the results you get, all of that nonsense is eliminated. You are the only person in the entire world who can predict your future with any degree of accuracy. Responsibility brings with it, assured confidence that your dreams can be realized; your plans can be carried out. Awareness of this magnificent truth is one of the greatest things that can happen in your life. It’s “Aladdin’s Lamp; a Magic Wand’ a Tooth Fairy” all wrapped up in one!
Your Responsibility Affirmation:
“I Am Responsible for MY Life, for MY Feelings and for Every Result I get!”
Remember, you have a choice and you want to make sure you make wise choices. Activating your vocal chords and speaking those words will set up a vibration in your mind and body, There is REAL power in the spoken word. Say them over and over again. Speak up and put real power in your voice. Speak slowly and deliberately, thinking about what these words MEAN. As you speak these words, SEE yourself as a truly responsible person.
By investing just one minute in this verbal exercise every day, for the next 30 days, you will improve every aspect of your life! It sounds silly, but it WORKS! You will develop a super-sensitive awareness. You will get to the point where the thought of blaming anyone or any circumstance for how you feel or for a particular result, will set off an alarm in your mind. The very thought of blame will throw a switch in your brain and a mental tape will begin to play. In your mind, you will hear yourself saying:
“I Am Responsible for MY Life, for MY Feelings and for Every Result I get!”
Even though that happens, you could very easily continue feeling badly or blaming others for it. The old conditioning which controls our behavior has a strong grip on us. It takes time. It takes energy. If your desire for the good life is not strong enough, the old conditioning will remain in control. When a person permits that to happen, they are wasting their life.
Take control! A little progress leads to more progress. You climb every mountain, one step at a time and with every step, the view becomes more beautiful.
George Bernard Shaw said, ‘”People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are! I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world, are the people who get up and LOOK for the circumstances they want and if they can’t find them, they MAKE them!” ‘
In other words: Losers blame. They do not know that they can control or call their own shots; write their own ticket. Winners are responsible. Blame is not a part of their life. When things are not going in a manner or direction they want, they originate new ideas and change their circumstances to conform to their plans.
Let’s suppose a person has been cheated our of a sum of money and they really get upset. You might hear the person in a rage say: “I will never trust another person as long as I live!” In an attempt to calm the person down and possibly caution them against any foolish decisions, you might say, “Don’t let it upset you. Everything will turn out alright! Besides, losing your trust over this one situation is not a wise thing to do!”
That advice in a situation like this could trigger a response like this: “What do you mean don’t get upset? Anyone would get upset if they had this happen!” …and of course, that it not true. There are people who are cheated out of enormous sums of money who do not get upset. They may not enjoy it, but they refuse to permit the situation to take control of their life! As for trust, they would NOT quit trusting!
Those who live this way are definitely in the minority. They are the winners in life. They refuse to surrender control over how they feel, or the direction they are taking in their life. The winners choice is to take responsibility for everything that happens – good, bad or otherwise. Everything that happens is a lesson. They even see the good in every negative situation. They are the situations in life that strengthen their mind; their character.
“I Am Responsible for MY Life, for MY Feelings and for Every Result I get!”
Dr. Rollo May, a distinguished psychologist, wrote in his book, Man’s Search for Himself, ‘”The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice. It is conformity.” ‘ It requires great courage to make the winners choice! When you choose to make the winners choice, you become part of the minority. It is not the popular choice.
When you refuse to get emotionally upset over a particular negative situation, you are taking a responsible stance. Your head will be clear and you will be mentally capable of responding TO the situation in an appropriate manner. However, your calm, cool behavior will confuse the majority of people. They could very easily accuse you of being foolish. They will not understand why you are not upset.
There are so many people on the wrong track, blaming everyone and everything for where they are, it is very easy for them to believe they are right. Conformity is an enormous problem in society. People acting like everyone else and they don’t know why!
Read this article several times. By doing so, you will not only become more aware of the power you develop by becoming more responsible, you will develop greater courage. By re-reading this article over and over again, you are not reading something you have not read before, you will see something in yourself that wasn’t there before! You are growing! Responsibility is beginning to play a more important role in your life.
Free Yourself From Unnecessary Responsibility!
The difference between being ‘responsible for’ and ‘responsible to.’
YOU are responsible FOR YOUR feelings; YOUR results…not another person’s. You may be responsible TO another person, but not FOR another person. The exception of course, is when you choose to take on the responsibility of raising children until they reach the age of maturity. You are responsible both TO and FOR them at which time they must become responsible for themselves if they are going to enjoy a happy, healthy, prosperous, fulfilled life.
At first glance, it might be appealing to think of having another person take on our responsibilities. We could even trick ourselves into believing that we would be free to play; to have fun; to do the things we wanted to do. Without serious thought, it would probably never enter our mind that exactly the opposite would be happening.
When we permit others to take on our responsibilities, we are becoming dependent on THEM. They become the giver and we become the receiver. Our well-being is dependent upon THEIR generosity. Can you see where misunderstanding or the lack of understanding of this principle of responsibility leads?…How it can cause lack, limitation, resentment and confusion in the life of both the giver and the receiver? Nothing positive will ever come from the misuse of responsibility. When you take on the responsibility for another person’s feelings; for their results; you will destroy their self-reliance and self-respect.
Since the vast majority of our population knows little of their true nature, or the laws governing their life, and since the majority of the population rush through life as go-getters, they will ravenously accept anything and everything and then dislike the giver for all time. They will instinctively feel that the giver was instrumental in causing them to become less able to take care of themselves. They feel under obligation to the giver, which produces a feeling of inferiority. Dislike becomes the natural effect.
The giver, being ignorant of this principle, is naturally confused. You will hear them say: “Why do they dislike me, after all I did for them?” When you take on another person’s responsibility, doing for them what they should be doing for themselves, you are guilty of contributing to their weakening state and because most people quickly shy AWAY from responsibility, they will expect you to do more and more!
“He who lets the goat be layed on his shoulders, is soon after forced to carry the cow!” ~Italian Proverb
It is your DUTY to help another become AWARE of their responsibility. When you permit another to take on YOUR responsibility, you are placing yourself in a mental prison where lack, limitation, blame and unhappiness must eventually prevail. Responsibility is something which should be learned at a very early age in life. Unfortunately, with many people, this has not happened. As a result, they move further and further in the direction of a welfare state of mind.
Give this principle of Responsibility the time and consideration it deserves. Remember, it is the KEY to freedom, power and prosperity.
The winners choice is to be responsible TO others and FOR themselves! Responsibility is the only way to freedom and the life which is your birthright.
“I Am Responsible for MY Life, for MY Feelings and for Every Result I get!”
~Bob Proctor
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Absolutely incredible, and inspiring article that Kevin wrote, here. I am very thankful that you posted it on here for me to read today. Thanks again!
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